Friendship for me, is sacred. It’s a journey we embark on, never really knowing where it will lead us. Sometimes, we get something truly special; a diamond among the rubble, a beautiful relationship that we could have for all of our lifetime.
Some are fortunate enough to have their spouses (partners) as best mates.
When you have that balanced relationship, where you both can do just about anything for each other anytime, any day, anywhere; catch each other when they stumble or fall, go through rough patches and still come out strong…it is truly a blessing.
When I was in college, I once heard a preacher say that “twenty mates cannot play together for twenty years.”
I smirked and said to myself, “that can never be me and me peoples.”
I felt I had a couple of mates, who I will always have their backs, and they would do the same.
We graduated from college, and then daily calls turned to weekly calls, which eventually became monthly calls.
Change being the only thing that is permanent, we began to move to different cities, countries, and continents-making things more complicated.
Calls were replaced by text messages, which were eventually replaced by the irregular “hellos”, once FaceBook actually caught on.
Everyone was in a critical stage of their lives, and different places.
It’s been about ten years since we left college, and out of the twenty-five odd close friends I had, I am frequently in touch with only four.
I’m no longer constantly in touch with the guys that were part of my inner circle. The guy I called my best mate doesn’t mean anything to me anymore, and I didn’t even get an invite to his wedding.
Many years later, I seat here and remember the words of the preacher. It hasn’t been up to the number of years he mentioned, and we are all too busy to keep in touch!
If you have that friend that means the world to you, let them know how much you appreciate them. Hold on strong and never let the drum stop beating.
Friends are the fabric of the universe that keep us going when it seems like we have nothing else to live for.
Truly, twenty mates can’t be together for twenty years for a multitude of reasons, but at the very least, cherish every moment of what you have while you still have it.
Death, distance, kids, family, and work are obstacles that could be lurking just around the corner.
Don’t you forget…cherish every moment and make them count.
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