When I was much younger, I attended a boarding high school as some of you may know (it’s commonplace in England, not so sure about The States).
It was normal practice then, for students to bring along some supplies when returning to school for the beginning of the term.
I had some mates, who usually came with like two, three sets of everything back then.
So when we were putting everything away inside our lockers, wide-eyed, I would ask, “Did your folks actually give you like two sets of everything?”
“Oh, sort of….you know mum and dad don’t live together, so mum gets her supplies, and dad tries to outdo her”, they usually retort.
I was like “Darn, boy are you lucky! How cool is that? I wish mum and dad didn’t live together too!”
They would giggle and tell me I actually had no clue about how messed up it was. I was seeing it from the goodies point of view, whereas, they were seeing it from a different angle, having actually experienced the emotional trauma and loneliness that comes with being part of a family that is broken into bits.
As parents, we should try and see what situations can be resolved amicably. Not everything necessarily has to end up in a divorce-besides, they are pricey these days, and the system always wins.
I am not saying if ones life is at risk, the person should remain there, with the chance of seriously being hurt…not at all.
I am talking about those that seem to pack up at the slightest disagreement. I mean, I know couples that have gotten a divorce, simply because of different opinions, which could have been resolved easily.
Yes, some people actually want to get out, and use the slightest disagreement as an opportunity to walk.
Everything should be looked at objectively, and the first step should be dialogue, before any other options are looked at.
What about the kids, how will they feel, being bounced around? As kids, they will always wonder why adults can’t just swallow their egos, work it out, and just be one happy family.
Before you take such drastic decisions…..take a moment to pause and think. Divorce should not always necessarily be the way out.
It takes two to tango.
More love, more happiness to us all!
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